A Biblical 5-Step Process for Giving Advice

At the beginning of last year I resolved to curb my nasty habit of offering unsolicited advice. Unfortunately, I’ve got decades of experience giving unwanted advice, so it wasn’t easy to wean myself off. If you have a problem, I have a solution. It’s how my brain works.  I know people often call men “fixers”, but don’t let the stereotype fool you. Some women (ahem…me) are born fixers also. The quandary with my advice-giving addiction is that it often has a negative impact on my relationships. Why? Because no one likes a serial-advice-giver. A need is not always an invitation.…

My #1 Secret for Cultivating Enduring Friendships {+Never Unfriended Book Review}

Today I’m spilling my all-time, number-one, best-of-the-best secret to cultivating enduring friendships. But first, a confession… I am the only person I know who managed to get all the way through college without one single enduring friendship. Not. A. One. Oh, there were a few times when I thought I’d met my match. I stuck with my best friend from grade school like a fly to paper, but immaturity and competition eventually sucked the life out of that relationship. Thre was one bright moment of friendship bliss in my 8th-grade year that fizzled, sputtered, and died before I stepped foot in…

The Price We Pay for the Labels We Wear + Video Recording of Live Event

For the rest of your life, people will be trying to find words to describe you, to sum you up, and to categorize you. Humans label things, it’s what they do. And if you are not careful, you will start to define yourself by the labels others have placed upon you. This is a grave mistake. Human labels may be a fact of life, but that doesn’t mean they have to rule our life. We can choose to receive or reject them. We can choose to live by them or live them up. We can allow them to stunt our…

The Most Powerful Gift We Can Give

Words are one of the most powerful gifts we can give to someone we love. Words fill in the space that exists between two souls, like a magnet pulling two separate beings into one shared space. Words reveal what is hidden and create a connection that even death cannot destroy.   Words reveal what is hidden and fill in the space that exists between two souls. Click To Tweet   Think back on the most poignant memories of your life, and you will discover that they are filled with lovely, life-changing words: I love you… It’s a girl… I do……

When was the last time you de-cluttered your heart?

  If you were to visit my house on a Wednesday morning for a coffee date, you might find yourself thinking, “Gosh, this girl has got it together! The house is spotless, the floors are clean, the coffee is hot, and…seriously…she’s pulling freshly baked scones from the oven?” But if you were to take a moment to look beneath the surface, you would find that my life is not as neat and tidy as it seems.   Though I diligently work to keep my house in order, I often fail to recognize how much clutter I have allowed to accumulate…

It’s Time to Stop Apologizing for Being You!

  I have no desire to put any of my dear friends on the spot, but the women in my life apologize for the silliest stuff!    I’m sorry my house is a mess…       I’m sorry for talking so much…       I’m sorry my kids aren’t behaving…       I’m sorry for asking for help…       I’m sorry for feeling that way…     When you say these things to me, all I hear is “I’m sorry for being me.”   You are my friend; I know you aren’t perfect and I…

Stepping out of Isolation and into Community

  Have you ever been alone?  Surrounded by people but somehow completely isolated? Friendship has never come easily to me. I am outgoing (probably too outgoing), I like to talk (probably a little too much), and I am opinionated (to a fault). In my exuberant desire to connect with people, I tend to drive friendship away before it ever has the chance to blossom.   I carried around the weight of rejection throughout most of my young life.   One failed friendship after another left me feeling vulnerable and inadequate. I have never felt more alone than the weeks following…

DARE to BARE it all!

  There are very few people who have ever seen me naked, and I will do everything in my power to keep it that way! But when it comes to how much of myself I choose to reveal on an emotional level, I long for the freedom that comes from daring to bare it all! It is so difficult to share our flaws and shortcomings with others, but one small act of vulnerability has the power to open up a floodgate of blessing in our lives.   True vulnerability is a rare thing in our culture where perception is everything.   Today…